This article is designed to help give insight to the wives of male pastors who have burned-out or have been terminated. At Smoldering Wick we do understand and support the many ministry leaders including pastors who are female, but this article is written from a male point of view because that is my personal experience.

Dear Daughters & YBW:

I trust that you have been doing well since my last letter to you.

It breaks my heart to see so many defeated and discouraged young black women in the world today. One of the goals of this book is to show you how you can live a successful, blessed, and victorious life.

Stained glass windows are a lot like pastors. They're really good at hiding stormy weather. They always look beautiful; they always appear inspirational; you can even get them to glisten when it's pitch black outside by shining manufactured light through them. Stained glass, like pastors, appears to be immune from the roughness of life. But they're not--unless they're well protected.

Dear YB:

Sometimes, when I get a new job to do, after doing it the first few times, I get the "it's exciting, it's something new to do" feeling. But soon, that same job that was so exciting and so new, a few weeks ago, doesn't feel all that exciting and new any more, and I begin to fail to do that job consistently like I used to do.